Usually compulsive liars are not confident individuals and they feel the need to dramatize certain events in their lives to impress others. These are some of the signs of a compulsive liar:
If the compulsive liar did something wrong and someone else found out they'd lie their way out of it. Telling others about things in their life that didn't happen. Dramatizing events in their life that didn't go down the way it did. Lying over silly things such as borrowing something from someone and denying they ever had it. Lying about other people. Constantly blaming others for the problems one gets themselves into.
These are but a few. If a person has been told they are a compulsive liar they probably are. Compulsive liars often don't mean to be this way, so professional help does help them balance out their lives, face themselves and not be afraid of being who they are or telling the truth and taking the consequences for their own actions.
Perhaps because they never learned how to take responsibility for their lives and their actions, which includes prioritizing one's personal issues. There really is no excuse for smoking other than it is a personal choice. Obviously it is an expensive habit and extremely detrimental to the smoker and those persons who are around them especially children. If children are involved in a situation where they are not properly cared for, the state's family and human services or child protection services should be notified at once. An investigation will be done and the appropriate action will be taken. The person making the claim should consider the seriousness of their actions and the real possibility that any children involved can be removed from the family home and placed in protective custody. It is the moral duty of all adults to report any suspected abuse or neglect of a child, elderly person physically or mentally challenged persons or indeed anyone who is unable to "help themselves". National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453, National Elderly Abuse Hotline 1-800-879-6682, National Handicapped Persons Crisis Hotline, 1-800-426-4263. It's probably hard for them to quit smoking..
Go to the department of social services. Or better yet, go to your uncle and have him go with you. That way they know that you have a stable home to stay in. Good luck with you and God Bless:) * You can
Most times yes, this is all part of the "control" game. For the person being abused this can, over time, create a dependency towards this. I know that sounds horrible, but you will find that many that are in an abusive relationship that get away, tend to careen back to abusive type people. Knowing they would hit you installs the belief of the abuser being a form of personal security or defender. This may or may not be an actual truth if the person is confronted by another individual. Such as A hitting B in a bar and C getting upset about it and confronting A. This is a very dangerous road to travel down as you may not know the level someone will go with the abuse.
AnswerYes. Don't stay with an abuser.
AnswerChances are the abuser was abused as a child. This is the only way they know how to communicate. I would let them know how much it is hurting me, and I would encourage them to seek therapy. I was in a verbally abusive relationship once, and you don't realize how much it destroys who you are. I went from having the most confidence and self esteem, to having next to none. I got out of that relationship (I eventually found out he was into drugs). I then met my future husband, and I realized what I was missing out on all those years.
AnswerI don't agree with the people above who said yes. No, they don't take pleasure in it. They aren't happy when they do it. Saying that an abuser takes pleasure in abusing is like saying that a runner enjoys giving up when he isn't winning a race. The abuser isn't saying "Today is such a good day. I think I'll go fishing and then abuse my wife for a while and then I'll go get ice cream." I'm not trying to justify the abusers actions; they are absolutely not OK. NEVER stay in a relationship where there is physical abuse. But, if you want to, you can help to change someone who is a verbal/emotional abuser, and you do have a chance of saving the relationship. The only way to do this is to understand what he is feeling. If you think that he takes pleasure in it and he does it for fun, then you definitely don't understand what he is feeling.
Abusers are usually frustrated and angry but they just don't know how to communicate well. They don't want to be their partner's peer; they want to be in control, and they crave power. Instead of talking about problems with his partner, he will take it out on her. (I am making the assumption that this is a male abuser and a female partner. Of course this is an unfortunate stereotype, but the same applies for any type of relationship.) He does not take pleasure in hurting his partner, physically or emotionally, but for whatever reason, he either thinks that this is the best way to tell you something or control you, or he is just using you to take out his anger. This isn't OK. NEVER stay in a relationship where you are being physically abused. If there is verbal/emotional abuse, don't put up with it. It needs to stop. But if there is no physical abuse, there is still a chance of saving the relationship. In order to help him change, it is important to understand completely why he does what he does. Ask him about it. Pick your moment well and word it in a way that isn't accusatory or threatening. Don't call him an abuser, just ask him why he says the things he says. Don't let him pass the blame; it isn't your fault that he's abusing you. You want to find out the feelings underlying his abuse. Ask him if he is venting anger. Once you find out what makes him do what he does, you can help him to stop.
You might also want to suggest that you and him go to relationship therapy.