This can be quite possible. There are many emotional and mental ties to sex and sexuality that we form over the course of our lives. Sometimes, shame is one of the greatest of these. There is potential that he did indeed feel dirty or "wrong" for what he was doing. If you like this guy, try to promote a healthier attitude towards sex and sexuality... his mind and heart have to enjoy the act, too!
Unfortunately, a lot of people of both sexes still think sex is "dirty". The power of puritan attitudes is very great.
Probably. Most guys would be inclined the other way if only for bragging rights. If a guy says this then the most likely explanation is he's being sincere. With the history of sexual relations it is quite likely that the old 'shame promotes responsibility' philosophy is still making its impact felt. In such a situation (I'm sorry to say) you are going to have to make the effort to be the mature one and do the right thing to promote a more amenable philosophy and relationship.
HE MIGHT BE IN JAIL
Your sex organs are "erogenous zones" -- which means when they're stimulated, it feels good. Most people's lips and mouths are also erogenous zones, as are breasts, the outside of the anus, and ... well, explore your own body and your partner's and see what works. (Our mouths are probably sensitized by our feeding as infants.)
No other species on earth, but humans, can kiss for pleasure and fun. There are kissing fish, and other species that touch lips, but they lack the brain capacity to feel sexual arousal, passion or feelings of love while kissing. Kissing a person for the first time (whom you really like) creates as many endorphines as an extreme sport would for an athlete. It is litterally a rush if used properly and done with real passion (not casually). Just my thoughts...
I'd say things aren't good for you if he's into drugs and now he's decided he's bi-sexual and cybercheating when he's "wired." Cheating is cheating.
I have often wondered if there really is acutally a category such as "bi-sexual." I can understand gay, lesbian, but bi? I'm not buying that one. That's my own opinion. With the diseases going around in our modern society and he's bi-sexual, I'd be very careful. Do you think he's worth it? I think you deserve better. You have two strikes against you .... drugs and the fact he's bi.
I grew up in the 50s and the big heart-throb was James Dean. He was every teenagers idol and broke the mold for freeing the 40s and 50s way of thinking. It gave the kids a little more freedom and gave us another slant on life. About a year after his death (died in a car accident at the age of 23) his biography said he was bi-sexual. James Dean made quotes to his roommate on this subject and said "I just wanted to experience everything life has to offer." Was he bi? Nope! In fact he only had one true love and that was a female Pier' Angela. So, the jury is out as far as I'm concerned on people who are labeled bi-sexual. You either like men or women whatever your sex may be, but both ... I doubt it.
AnswerOf course he's always been bi. You don't decide to be bi. Disregard what the biphobe posted on here. Bisexuality is a natural sexual orientation. It means gender doesn't matter, or is only a small factor. It makes as much sense as race not mattering to a person. It does not mean you need both genders to feel satisfied, so tell your husband that and that if he continues to cybercheat or cheat at all you might divorce. Unless of course you're into swinging in which case go ahead and give him the green light. It also does not mean there's an increased risk of STDs. Anyone who is promiscuous and doesn't practice safe sex is at increased risk for STDs whether they are straight, gay, or bi.
As for the drugs part. What drugs is he taking and how often? Does it seem like an addiction or just a thing he does from time to time. Many people do drugs in moderation. Remember, alcohol is a drug. Is his drug use interfearing with his responsibilities? If so, that's not a good sign, and you might want to stage an intervention.
To the last poster there was no where in my post I said to grab their chin. I said "hold them under their chin" and any child psychologist will tell you that this is to be used to get eye contact with your child as a method to hold their attention while you are speaking. I know many parents disagree regarding a spanking, but it worked with our parents, and my brother and we didn't have any problems from it. We were expected to listen and our parents didn't have time to explain why we should behave or "time out." We were disciplined by being sent to our rooms, perhaps not allowed to go out and play with our friends or not able to go to the Saturday Matinee. If all else failed we got spanked! It's proof right out in society that many children are left without much control or taught to respect their elders or how to behave. What some parents think is cute by their child having a fit in a restaurant is not so cute to other patrons and also, a child taking over adult conversations is also not considered cute or that the child is particularly bright. Many children are out of control and society is tired of picking up the pieces. Many women that have gone back to work have openly admitted it was easier to go to work than stay home and look after their kids. I am not talking about all women and some do stay home because they want to raise their children the best they can. As we all know raising children is the hardest job a parent(s) can have. You are obviously one of the lucky parents that can control your children without much effort, but, there are many parents out there that are beside themselves with frustration as to how to control their children. My husband came from a family of 5 (4 boys and a girl) and they got spanked and each one turned out to be solid, successful and normal functioning human beings out in the world. Marcy Discipline these days is so hard for parents. We look at that cute and cuddly little wonder in the nursery right after they are born and our brain cells take a hike! We have all these hopes and dreams for this perfect little being and before we know it they are in the "terrible 2 stages" then they go to school and there is a little more trouble, and finally THE TEEN YEARS! Yikes! Suddenly that little sweet face turns into the doll from hell! LOL When you speak to your child hold them under the chin and try to make them look at you. If you hopefully get their attention then scold them and tell them they are bad and then put them in their room and to bed (check on them every 10 minutes). It may not work the first or second time, but persistence is everything and keep doing it. Children this age understand a lot more than we give them credit for. I am going to get kicked in the backside for this one, but when all else fails I believe in a little smack on the behind. I'm not talking about twisting the child's limbs, throwing them across the room or using things like belts, wooden spoons, but, some children are extremely stubborn and YOU ARE THE BOSS! It's most important that your husband or boyfriend take part in this as well. If your child is punished then both of you should stand on this decision so the child can't run off to the other parent and get sympathy. This is the worse things that can happen. British Columbia, Canada has brought the spanking law back in and thank God! I wish you well. Good luck Marcy * I for one disagree with smacking kids or grabbing their chins there kids. A simple timeout seems to work great for me, a father of 5