It depends on the individual. Each day I do say these things: * Thank you God for another great day! * I sure do feel blessed with what I have. * When I've had one bad day I wake up the next morning with 'it's the start of a bright new shiny day.' * I remind myself to gain strength by standing up for what is right or wrong and stick to my guns because I know at least once a month I'll be faced with that. Stand strong, stand fast and don't waiver even if it means you're on your own! * Do right, no matter what! * Enjoy today because there may not be another. * Tell the people you love, you love them because you may never see them again. Accidents do happen. I learned this long ago and say it to my husband every single night and morning. * I am in control of ME! * I have to be accountable for my own actions. No denials permitted no matter what! Those are a few things that can happen in every day life, but it varies with the individual.
All of us at one time or another feel like the world has caved in on us and we can go through many emotions and perhaps that's what happened to your wife. If you still love your wife and she has never split-up with you before then meet with her and discuss things and if you don't feel she had a good enough reason to leave, then I'd continue on with your new lifestyle and new lady friend, but, if you feel the both of you can make it I'd give it a shot. Sometimes people just make mistakes and it doesn't mean they don't love you. Be sure you are open and honest with the lady you have been seeing. Simply say you will be meeting with your wife to see what she wants and you'll discuss it with her later (and mean it). If you decide to walk away from your wife then that's one solution, but if you love her then you are going to have to tell this girlfriend of yours that you are going back to your wife. Unfortunately, this sort of thing happens. Don't go back to your ex out of guilt or feeling sorry for her, but go back only if you love her and be true to your own heart. Good Luck Marcy
It is not always easy to tell if somebody is using you, but a few of the ways I've known in the past are: 1, If you sleep with him and then dont hear from him for a while 2, He prefers to go out with his mates then spend a little time with you 3, He doesnt introduce you to any of his friends or family. The best thing I can say to you if you believe somebody is using you is to ask them straight out if they are and if that doesnt work then walk away. Its better to be with someone who you know really cares for you then somebody you spend your whole time worrying about. If he only comes around for sex. Doesn't phone you at least once a week. Doesn't take you out in public. Doesn't introduce you to friends and family. Sure each individual needs their space before and after marriage, but it is also to where you can tell how much that person adores you if you are taken to places where he hangs out with friends and also be able to get acquainted with his family. And does he take you out for special evenings or to a movie??
(All advice is generic and incomplete of necessity. Apply as fits, and use your own brains.) I'm assuming he promised to call here, otherwise see Answer below (he may just be unaware that you expect him to call). He may have forgotten if he's the type to forget appointments (even important ones). If not then there was some other reason for him not to call. Examples: * He doesn't like being told what to do. * He fears falling into the habit of complying to your wishes (power play). * He didn't get the opportunity (missing privacy, time...) * He wasn't in the mood, and considered it pointless or even harmful to call you in his present emotional state. * If you're not yet firmly together he may be intentionally hanging you out to dry, to see how much you love him and to assure his predominant position. * He may be just uncomfortable about talking on the phone. * He may be just uncomfortable about calling for no particular reason. (He doesn't know what to say.) * He didn't know it was important to you. * ... You seem to doubt his love because of this. If you have other reasons to do so beyond this one then either he really doesn't (then look for someone who does) or he does but doesn't express it in ways that make you FEEL loved. That's a serious problem you need to talk with him about. Ask him what signs of love he shows to you - there's likely some discrepancy between what you and he think he's showing. Tell him why you feel unloved and give some examples in past situations where you wished he had behaved differently. This will tell him what signs are important to you. It still may be that you can't adapt to each other though you're both in love because your ideas of a loving relationship differ too widely. Unfortunately, men and women weren't created the same in the emotional department, so the answer to your question is "yes!" While you are pondering the thought he should be calling you the next day and cooing at how wonderful things were the night before and how much he loves you, he's probably up to his elbows in motor oil with a big smile on his face thinking how much he loves you. Don't get bent out of shape on this one and watch, look and listen at that tiny little tick in a man's brain. If you can start to think like a man on occasion then you've won!
There was a post not long ago as to whether long distance relationships worked and the posters that replied opened my eyes and made me realize what a mixed bag this is.
Many posters were in long distance relationships and they were working. Others weren't so fortunate.
It depends on the person you are in love with and if they are loyal and have a good conscience.
Keeping in touch with each other by phone, email or making a good effort to see each other on the weekends or at least once a month (if possible)is a good start.
Soldiers in war were away from their wives or husbands for months or years, yet many were very faithful to their mate. (they may have had a little "swing time" at a bar or party, but it meant nothing and served a need in most cases.) So, keep in touch with the one you love and try to make it out to see them as often as you can.
Good luck Marcy