The definition of an adult in the United States is anyone 18 years old and greater. Until that time, ones parents are responsible for them. If they move out without the consent of the parents, the parents may consider the minor a runaway which is illegal.
Your boyfriend has an obligation to his child and that means paying child support. If he feels he doesn't need to pay child support then get rid of him because that means he's irresponsible and a bum. If he is serious and wants to be part of this child's life then there really isn't anything wrong with this and there is no reason you can't be his girlfriend and perhaps even spend time with his child providing his ex girlfriend is OK with this. As to whether you want to stick around is your decision and you have to ask yourself how much you love this guy. If you aren't sure, then give it time or move on. Sit down with you boyfriend and have a serious discussion as to how far he wants to take this involvement with his child. You need some answers and quick. Be stright up with him and ask if he still loves his ex girlfriend. I highly doubt it and it shouldn't interfere in you relationship together even if he so chooses to see his son/daughter. Give it a chance. It often happens where down the road some girl comes forth and has become pregnant from an ex boyfriend. However, I suggest your boyfriend get a blood test to be sure this baby really is his. His ex could have been dating someone else, and there are women out there that just look for an easy meal ticket to help raise that child. Without the blood test your boyfriend could be paying child support for some other guy's baby. I had a friend who recently heard from a young man claiming to be his son. His son is now 28 years old and it was a big blow to our friend. He never knew about his son because the mother didn't bother to tell him at the time she was pregnant. Our friend was excited, scared and really wanted to meet his son and they did, did a few things together, but unfortunately too much time had passed and they never really retained a good father/son relationship. Have that talk! Good luck Marcy
Things have changed in our modern world and it doesn't seem to matter if the girl calls the guy, but personally, I feel you should have said, "If you want to talk to me, you phone me!" Don't make it easy for him. For now, give him the call, but tell him if he wants to talk to you or ask you out in the future he is to call you and you have no intentions of running after him! Let's see what this guy is made out of. Good luck Marcy
Accept it.....We only are able to let go that which we are willing to accept. Remember, you cannot fly. It is something you have accepted and therefore do not obsess over. Once you are willing to accept things you can easily forget about it. Want some pointers of acceptence? Make it insignificant, do not fight your thoughts rather allow them to consume you; once you have been put into a deep thought attach your worries to a comedic environment. I always use Seinfield's favourite line. "AHHH what can you do". Learn to accept your fate and I will assure you it will pass.
Yes, he can get in trouble. The specific laws vary depending on where you live, but most states have laws along the line of harboring a runaway/interferring with custody of a minor/etc.