It would seem like you're giving them power over you but in actuality you are being the bigger person and even your adversary will recognize that. You ever heard the saying, "kill them with kindness?" It works. This doesn't mean you have to be over the top or fake with it, just treat them in a manner that shows you are genuinely a good person and even though the two of you don't see eye to eye, you can still be cordial and respectful. It's not easy but you can do it. This is something I'm working on myself right now. It would be SOOOO easy for me to be a you know what but I'm really trying to take the high road. You know it's the right thing to do because it's not the easiest thing to do.
You can't fake being in love and sooner or later he is going to find out. It's best to tell him the truth. Perhaps you could ease into it by telling him that you aren't ready to get serious, that there is no one else at this time, but you want to persue other things in your life. It doesn't much matter what you tell him he will be hurt, but you will hurt him much, much more by not telling him how you feel. People bounce back and he will eventually find the person he should be with. Besides, you would also be miserable if you stuck it out pretending to love him and stress will eventually force you into blurting out to him one day that you don't love him. End it soon and do it as kindly as you can. Good luck Marcy Oh boo hoo. Booooo hooooo. Listen sister, you break his heart now, set him free, and let him move on to a woman who reciprocates his love.
If you and your ex don't hate each other and occasionally don't mind bumping into each other, it might be fine.
If you can't stand your ex, and the feeling is mutual. . well, there is going to be a lot of tension and problems.
AnswerYes, but it will be much easier if you and your ex had a clean break. Try not to hold onto any feelings of hostility if you have any.
AnswerI was in a situation like you and just as curious about the chances of success. I wanted a healthy relationship completely independent from that cheating female I had once trusted. Well, I can tell you....It wasn't easy at first, conversations always ended up hinting or in some way relating back to my ex. Now after so much time and so many happy memories with my girlfriend, we share the closest friendship and love I have ever seen. Not even my parents seem to have a friendship like we do and they've been married close to 40 years. I'm in the Navy and have seen my girlfriend once in the past 2 months, but when we were together it was like no time had past at all, the distance and phone-only relationship didn't change a thing between us. The important thing is to be strive to be independent of your ex, not to forget the past, but both of you make your new relationship yours not just a spin-off series. Good Luck
Cut your losses and move on, there is obviously a reason other than he "just has to give it one more go" maybe possibly that he stills loves her,but more than likely it is just a game and he " wants to have his cake and eat it to", if this is what he says to you, know that he is probably just trying to playcate you and keep you around just in-case it doesn't work out how he wants it to, and probably to get some on the side.
the character of a person will take you much farther than sexual compatbility Actually surveys show that shared interests and hobbies are the best predictors for long-term relationship success. Sexual compatibility alone is just not enough to sustain a real relationship. Keep looking, you will find someone with character who is sexually compatible and shares some of your interests.