other than straight-up sex... your best bet will be a solid stretching routine followed by hot shower, the long haul will tax your eyes and muscles more than you might expect so make sure you're able to snack and drink plenty of water during the ride... good luck
It is not easy, but it takes nothing more than time and being honest with yourself and family and friends. I bet talking to a counselor will also help.
Me personally, it has been nearly one year since the abusive relationship ended. I still deal with trust issues and self esteem/confidence issues. I will say they are not nearly as severe as when the relationship first ended.
Talk about what you have experienced with everyone who will listen and NEVER be ashamed of what happened to you...because it is not your fault!!!!
I also have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and HE by far has been the one who has seen me through the most!!!!!
It might be different from person to person, but for me I knew I was in love when I would rather be talking to or spending time with the person I love than doing anything else. If offered the choice between any activity and spending time with the object of your affection, spending time with them always sounds like more fun.
Mind your Parents!
Forgiveness.Nothing is heathier for ones mental, spiritual, and physical being. All can be forgiven in the name of love. Kids are pure and forgive, they also pick up more than many would believe. Forgiveness is apart of the christian religion, it is the biggest part that many people screw up because of false pride. Self service can blind somebody into a life of empty encounters winding up alone. The one that got away happens alot when we throw love we have before us, replacing it with a quick fix.
honesty.tell the person how you really feel. Try to find several different solutions that may help the relationship and ask the other person if they think the solutions would work. Just make sure both people know that the relationship is at a low point because i know from a previous relationship the guy was not honest and lead me on to think everything was great when it wasnt.
CommunicationCommunication is the key to saving a relationship. IF you constantly fight and argue all the time you are both not listening to each other at all. You both have to sit down and really talk about the flaws in your relationship. There can't be any communication if you both are just hearing each other's voices all the time. Arguing is like competing for the upper hand. No one has the upper hand in a relationship its a 50/50 compromise. So both of you need to stop and sit down. Get a coffee, or go to a restaurant and talk to the other person. Make them realize why you liked each other in the first place
Here is more input and advice:
- First ask yourself whether it's worth trying. The concept that
a relationship should last a lifetime, or at least as long as
possible, is badly outdated. If a split won't cause any particular
suffering to anyone (like your kids), and you can find new partners
without too much trouble or you'd rather be alone than in a bad
If you want to safe it just because of the MEMORIES how it once was and there's no reasonable chance to make it so again, you should keep and treasure those but move on making new ones.
- WHY is it at a low point? Can you remove those reasons, and at what prize? Or are the reasons temporary and will resolve by themselves? Your question indicates hope for a new peak if you can just survive the dump. Is it justified?
- Maybe you can turn the relationship into friendship? A friendship may actually be more valuable for both of you, especially right now, since you need a good friend at a time like this...You may actually fall in love again!
- I am wondering this same thing. I think that it is something that one can not control. A person can not predict the future. Communication is always key, I think. Though if only one person wants the communication part, then it's over, and you just have to accept it.
- Usually you can. It takes a lot of communication, work, and sacrifice though. Always make sure you're completely honest and open. Tell them EVERYTHING.
- All relationships can be saved as long as change can take
place. It is because of self that most relationships deteriorate.
Relationship requires two different people with different likes and
desires getting along for the common good while going through the
time line of life. It is usually when one person in the
relationship thinks like a single person that trouble arises. All
of us are naturally self oriented. Putting self down and the other
person first is the beginning of the cure to the trouble. Love is
the motivator and self will the engine that fuel change. After 32
years of marriage I can speak on these things in truth. What may
seem like a little thing to you may be a big thing to her. Just
because it is not big to you does not immediately reduce it in her
eyes. Do not procrastinate in trying to please on the little
things, just do them. Now we get to the hard part--you and change.
Here is where the third party in a marriage is vital. His name is
Jesus and he says to husbands "Love your wives as I have loved the
Church." Ephesians 5:24-25
He can change you from self serving to selflessness. It may take a while but the more you try to become a Godly man the easier it will become. She really wants a Godly,caring man in her life. Their are too many men out there that do not do our gender credit. Their eyes full of porn, bellies full of beer, TV full of meaningless sports and ears full of crude jokes. No wonder women are disgusted with these leaderless blowhards. Men of America! Turn your path around! Go back to church! Start thanking God for your wife and children. Ask God to change you! He will! Wonderful things await you if only you act!
- The key to this is. When things are at the lowest, over communicating is harsh. I know that sounds funny... but you can actually be trying tooo hard to be loving. And that can actually be hurting the relationship when things are at their lowest. Take it easy. Don't try too hard. When you do sit down to talk, when things start to get aggresive, back off. Don't push too hard. Resentment is one of the number one keys to issues. Let nature take its course. Of course counseling is helpful too.. but dont rush things, sometimes things have a way of working themselves out, if we just LET them.
Try getting closer to the person... going out to dinner inviting him/her over to hang out go to the basics that got you in the relationship
I also think sometimes you need to decide if the problem is worth fixing. Are you just having trouble in the relationship? Or is there genuinely nothing left? Sometimes people just grow apart..